She’ll post OOC about how she sucks at writing. I’ll post uplifting message about how great she is, a solid paragraph or two of encouragement. She’ll post a simple thanks. Then a few replies later she’ll be at it again.
It’s the same cycle, and it is a constant struggle for me. My partner is a good writer, but either she doesn’t see that, or she’s fishing for compliments. Either way, I’m kind of getting sick of constantly having to shower her in praise and try to raise her spirits about her writing. It’s gotten really old, and no matter what I say she still pities herself and her writing.
I understand the frustration but someone isn’t going to automatically feel better about themselves and their ability because someone else said otherwise.
If the world worked that way, we wouldn’t have anyone hating themselves over what they can and can’t do.
Maybe it’s time for some tough love; if she really feels that bad about her writing skills, maybe she should stop; at least suggest that to her. For all we know, she could just like the attention. It’s harsh, but it happens.
Maybe it’ll snap her out of it, maybe it won’t. But either way it seems like neither you or your partner are enjoying this situation (unless she actually is fishing for compliments) and in the end it’s going to stress you out beyond your tolerance and it won’t be pretty.
At the same time, there might be a deeper reason behind her negativity. It’s time for an important conversation, I think. For all we know, she could be having a hard time elsewhere and ends up taking it out on herself. You really need to get to the root of the problem instead of constantly complimenting her; that solves nothing in the long run.